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February 05, 2010

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But, sir, if we don't make enemies, how will we love anyone?

Seriously - if we read the psalms for study and correction, we will discover the enemy and it is more than 'us' as Pogo said. Then we will be able to love without creating enemies.

You switched from find to make - and like many of the psalms, finding the enemy - defining the enemy is a good step and can lead to costly action on behalf of the same. (Even if that costly action is rebuke)

It seems that many churches do in fact try to grow by "finding an enemy." It is a cheap and easy to gin up a substitute vision and a false sense of team. There are plenty of preachers and pastoral leaders who focus on what we are against, scare people with a cataclysmic tales of society going to hell on a rocket ship, and unite people against a common cause. And in this context, tending the garden means making sure people don't ask too many questions.

To the extent that it "works" and "grows" congregations people don't question the trend. The problem is that the church that follows this route will eventually start feeding on itself.

I agree that finding a group of people or an individual to unite against will always be counter to what I feel Christianity stands for ....

but Susan G Komen found an enemy in breast cancer.

Not all enemies lead us away from the Gospel, right? We're allowed to despise certain concepts. We just need to separate the concept from the people who house them. Cancer is easy to hate. It's harder to hate drugs without blaming the addict. I don't know how to hate homophobia without pitying (and I shamefully admit - feeling superior to and more enlightened than) the homophobe.

Kit, first I make no special claims that I've been able to avoid hating things or concepts or even people. It's my inability to do this that makes me fear the danger. It's like pride I think.

I keep remembering St. John's language, God is Love and in him there is no darkness at all, and in another place; If we do not Love we do not have God.

Maybe it's possible to hate something like Sin - but I'm not sure my soul can survive the corrosive effects of doing even that. Cancer oddly enough has a role to play in evolutionary development and in the struggle to understand it and overcome it, we may find that it is one of our greatest teachers...

Bob, I'm pretty sure that loving those who do not love us is a foundational step to becoming spiritually mature. And I think that gets extended automatically to loving the parts of ourselves that are difficult to love. In fact it's my wife's love of the parts of my personality that I don't love that has had the effect of redeeming them and redefining my own relationship to them. So I'd agree with you on the middle point.

I'm not so sure that defining something as enemy though is necessarily helpful. I'd want to think a bit about reading the psalmist's sentiments through the lens of Jesus and the Cross first.

Which is something I promise to do as part of a Lenten discipline. Thanks for suggesting that to me!

Great post...and I love your comment here about the way love of even the most seemingly difficult parts of ourselves is a path to redemption (something that has really come home for me as I've healed from ptsd through DNMS, a therapy that seeks to do just what you describe through rehabilitatiting, reather than rejecting, the parts of self that re-inflict abuse and trauma)...the kind of binary--friend vs. enemy--that this sort of advice creates, seems to me to almost always set up a congregation for future splits and conflicts because it creates the sort of culture that REQUIRES conflict, anger, and hatred in order to be unified...That sort of unity isn't sustainable in the long-term the way unity based on a common postive purpose is.

Maybe instead our ability to draw lines between 'us' and 'them' is part of God's overall 'project plan' for building the universe — perhaps he uses our innate fear of enemies for his larger purposes:

- Fear of enemies — much of which is often fear of the unknown — can help impel us toward collaboration with our perceived friends;

- Without collaboration, it'd be difficult for us to survive long enough to raise children to reproductive age, and virtually impossible for us to explore the unknown, feed the hungry, clothe the naked, etc.;

- With collaboration, humanity gradually drags itself up the cultural learning curve — and eventually we learn to moderate our fear and hatred of enemies.

So perhaps our ability to 'make' enemies is something of a catalyst, used to further God's larger purposes.

As in so many areas, the trick is to achieve moderation, to avoid having our reflexive fear of 'enemies' overwhelm our other faculties.

Our baptismal promises clearly identify the enemy as "Satan and all the spiritual forces of wickedness that rebel against God . . . the evil powers of this world which corrupt and destroy the creatures of God . . . , and all sinful desires that draw you from the love of God."

Paul wrote to the Ephesians, "For our struggle is not against enemies of blood and flesh, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers of this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places." (Ephesians 6:12)

It seems to me that the difference for a Christian is not whether we have enemies, but how we must treat the ones we have. Scapegoating them is the wrong way. Jesus told us to "Love our enemies."

Martin Luther King, Jr. said it this way in his sermon, "Loving Your Enemies":

"love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend. We never get rid of an enemy by meeting hate with hate; we get rid of an enemy by getting rid of enmity. By its very nature, hate destroys and tears down; by its very nature, love creates and builds up. Love transforms with redemptive power."

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